The men and women who we fall in love with.....What do you think is the real cause for spousal abuse? Is it because they are just born wicked and evil, or the way they were socialized? This is not just about men abusing women but also, women abusing men. Could it be perhaps that the spouse who is abused deserved it?
What is your view? Let's talk about it, bearing in mind that abuse can be physical, verbal or emotional.
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I have seriously considered this too and wat i hav noticed of the men is a fear of appearing 'smaller' than the women they abuse and so they break her spirit and attack her sense of worth/self . In other words they are people who have not learnt to appreciate or recognise their worth and are threatened by others who are. i wud also like to offer that the first sign that you are in an abusive relationship is a partner who abuses you verbally - so people if you find your self in a situation like this -plz leave. you deserved to be loved and someone out there probably does and if you cant see that you do LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH TO SAVE YOUR LIFE AND PRESERVE THE ESSENCE OF YOUR BEING. O abusers Never change so dont stay thinking you can change them - it AINT your fault, neither do you deserve it .
Not to condone any form of abuse but one has to consider that building up of actions often result in reactions. A magnitude of incoming negative or stressful behaviour can translate into outgoing abuse from the recipient. It sometimes takes two to create an abusive situation....a giver & a receiver. I strongly believe an abuser can be changed & running from the one you love....if you really love them, should not be the first instinctive reaction. Self examination then a relationship examination has to be done. Timing is also an essential tool and should be implemented in communicating with your abusing partner in trying to resolve the situation(s). When all else fails then it's time to think about yourself, your safety and your sanity and head towards the exit sign. That's my 2 cents.
I agree with what alive said, the abuser does so as their way of exerting "power." Every relationship has problems and it ought not to be seen that the way to deal with it is by being abusive. Also, love is reciprocal, and if that's their way of showing love, then they need serious help. Let me also point out that it's not only men who are abusers but women too.
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