Thankful

As we embark on another year, let's pause to recognize what we are thankful for, life, health, family, relationships, friends, a job, children, happiness, independence, freedom of speech etc.., Here's hoping that the New Year will bring us whatever we desire to get us to the place we want to be with ourselves, and when we do get there, remember to say, "thanks."

In love or insecure

I heard of a situation, which I have to write about. The scenario is a woman complaining that her husband is still keeping in touch with his ex - girlfriends. She has mentioned three of them that she knows of, so it may be more. The response of the counsellor to her is that she should demand that he stops talking to them out of love for her as she is uncomfortable with the situation.
My view, I say it is an outrage! This counsellor is condoning this woman's insecurity! She wants to control the man's actions under the guise of love. She needs to build her self esteem and self confidence. The man stops talking to his exes then what? Will things be fine with them? I think not because she will still be insecure, so she will find something else to gripe about. Next time it will be his working late, or night out with the boys or the way he looks at the neighbour, or his new interests or anything else that will feed her insecurities.
She needs to focus on herself, the individual. What are her strong points? How does she really feel about herself? What does she want out of life for herself without imposing on anyone else? It's obvious that this man has some good qualities, hence still in contact with his exes as there are some men who are so hated after a relationship is ended.
I say, come on women, let's assert ourselves and not sell ourselves short. Men prefer strong confident women than women who are insecure and clingy and trust me, they'll stick around longer.