Is there a thin line between love and selfishness?

As women we all want attention, we want to be pampered and feel loved. We want to brag to our friends how the love of our life waits on us hand and foot and will do anything for us. That's all well and good, but love is reciprocal. What do we do in turn for our doting spouse? Wash, cook and clean, sex on our terms and that should be enough? Come on ladies, that's downright selfish! Whether or not we are in a relationship, we still have to wash, cook and clean, well sex is up to you. The man needs to feel special too, he wants to brag to his friends too. Love is not a one way street, it goes both ways and so does the expression of love.
I get it, some will say but men are like that too, want to receive only. That's true, but my point is this, love is reciprocal. It ought not to be only one receiving without even making any effort to give because as much as you may feel "loved" and be bragging about it. You are downright selfish and do not deserve such a partner. Regardless of whether you are the receiving male or female, my point is still the same. The thing about love is, it's pure, it's not selfish nor self seeking. At times we use our own insecurities and poor self esteem to justify love. If one partner is giving their souls to a selfish person under the guise of love, then they have self issues that needs to be dealt with. Just the same if the other partner is taking and expecting more without giving, they too have self issues that need to be addressed and are hiding behind "love." Sure both parties do love, I'm not for once disputing that, what I'm concerned about is the expression of that love.
Unfortunately, there are persons who have never felt loved before, whether as a child from a parent or other relative. They don't know kindness as no one has ever been kind to them. They meet some one who shows them some attention and they are smitten, so what do they do? They give their heart and souls to these users who having not experienced this type of attention just keep taking from them. The other side of it though, is that in some instances, neither party mind as some are givers and some are takers. I can well appreciate that but I'm sure a giver would also want to receive and vice versa. Whether we want to accept it or not, this is more an expression of abuse than love.
Love is a beautiful thing, there is giving and receiving unselfishly. It brings joy and hope, let's not ruin it. Love brings people together, not divide and more than anything else, love conquers all.